fix: cancel even when vrpc is not started yet and fix newRealCall

[mutianf]

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[nimf]

The return is missing now. It was here to protect from the race with handleSessionClose, right? Then we should keep it.

[mutianf]

it'll now throw an exception if the state is not started. see here: https://github.com/googleapis/java-bigtable/blob/main/google-cloud-bigtable/src/main/java/com/google/cloud/bigtable/data/v2/internal/csm/tracers/DebugTagTracer.java#L27

[nimf]

oh. Do we want a user to have an exception if starting a call coincides with session closing? Am I missing something?

[mutianf]

Hmm, I think this only prevents double start of an vrpc which should never happen? session closing should be handled here: https://github.com/googleapis/java-bigtable/blob/main/google-cloud-bigtable/src/main/java/com/google/cloud/bigtable/data/v2/internal/session/VRpcImpl.java#L140 which we only log a warning if the state is not correct.